Teaching Children About Sexual Intimacy

This week I have learned a lot about intimacy and how it should be taught and discussed in a family. It's so important to teach our children about these things so they are aware but also find the balance of keeping those things special and sacred.

My Experience with "The Talk"

I'm sure that you have all heard of "The Talk." Maybe your parents called it "The Birds and the Bees." Whatever they called it, it was none the less awkward, at least for me. At about ten years old, I remember I had to sit through an uncomfortable like two hour rant of my mom telling me all about how a mom and a dad made babies. We looked through picture books and the whole nine yards. I felt weird and uncomfortable and I just wanted to leave the conversation. Maybe that experience was different for you! Maybe you felt comfortable and maybe even enjoyed it! I'm happy for you if that's the case, but I would love to explain some of my thoughts on how we can make this topic a more enjoyable one. I know that how my mom explained things wasn't bad or wrong but maybe there could have been a little different approach.

Kids need an understanding of their God given roles!

As a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, I believe strongly that every person who has lived or ever will live on this earth is a son or daughter of a loving Heavenly Father who created them as spirits before they came here. He knows them all individually. He loves them perfectly. He has given them divine and sacred roles to fulfill while they are here, one of them including the power of procreation. In the beginning even from Adam and Eve, we learn that they were given the commandment to "multiply and replenish the earth" so that the rest of God's children could come down to experience earth life. This process of bringing more children to earth is something that helps us to become more like our Father in Heaven. It helps us to understand how He feels about each of His children and teaches us to be more compassionate and charitable. Henry B. Eyring once said, "Just as Jesus used a child in His mortal ministry as an example for the people of the pure love they must and could have to be like Him, He has offered us the family as an example of an ideal setting in which we can learn how to love as He loves. That is because the greatest joys and the greatest sorrows we experience are in family relationships. The joys come from putting the welfare of others above our own. That is what love is." Teaching our children this doctrine is SO IMPORTANT. As they are growing up learning about sex education and love in general, they can have this eternal truth in their mind to remind them of the purpose of it all.

Back to Mom

Going back to the talk with my mom. I am actually very grateful she sat me down and told me in depth more about how the process of creating a family happens. For my future children, I want to explain those things but also make sure there is an emphasis on the why and not just the how. I think it will really benefit them in the end and help them to understand and not be so intimidated by it all! I encourage you to ponder on how you can have these conversations with your future children or if you have them right now. I know you will find the right way for you and your family.

Conclusion

I just want to say that I am so grateful for the things I have learned this week about sexual intimacy. I feel like my mind has been expanded and I really understand the grand scheme of things. I know that we have a Heavenly Father that loves us and wants us to experience all the joys He has experienced and we can do that through having families. If you have any questions about God and His plan for you, feel free to leave me a comment or message! I would love to talk with you. :)